Hi there! I’m Elsabe. 

I want to ask you a question …

You know that thing where you had a fight with someone or a conversation, or when you wrote an email or text and a few hours later it comes to you: I should have said that! And now it’s going to bother you for the next ten years, damn. Or you have already posted something “funny” (in your opinion, anyway) on your social media and now you realize: “o_my_gosh. What was I thinking?”

Another question.

Have you ever thought that the only thing that makes us different than animals, is the fact that we can speak and write? The gift of good communication is truly wonderful. But while we cannot all be a Trevor Noah, almost every person can communicate better. We can talk more clearly, become better writers of emails, and get hundreds of likes for a good post (if you want it).

Why? Well, that’s a great question!

If you want to get a job, and preferably a kick-ass one, communication is the only thing you’ve got. When you have a relationship that sucks, you can make it better with some good conversations. Maybe you already have the right job, but you need to do presentations and documents and other scary stuff, good communication will do the trick. You need to win at debate, the only formula is great communication. Aa, you want you want people to love you, you know what needs to happen. You’d like more likes? Good communication gets you there.

Don’t you agree that some wars and divorces and conflict could have been avoided if only the people could better explain themselves to each other? This is the thing – humans cannot NOT communicate. Even if you refuse to talk or avoid me or are angry at me, your body and face and silence still say a very great deal.

What you tell yourself about you, is usually what you become. That is internal communication. I am not an airy-fairy guru who believes in positive thinking. But I know good communication is the only thing that guarantees happiness and success. And we can all learn to do that.

Fact, is: good communication is not easy. Whether we speak or write or send signs, it is challenging.

Good communication means great writing too

Written messages are still a form of communication.  This explains why we love specific authors, magazines, reporters and newspapers more than others – because the written message speaks of clear, vivid and respectful communication.

When our relationships or friendships or work situations suck, it could be because we are choosing the wrong words. It can also be because we are not listening well enough.  We send the wrong signals with our nonverbal communication (body language). We are pressed for time and send sloppy and rude emails.

Nobody communicates perfectly, but many people communicate well.  And in case you are thinking that some people are just born with it and others will never be able to communicate, that is not true at all.  We can all improve our communication skills and practice to do it (benefits of improved communication). It is true that there are people who were born as outstanding communicators (thinking Obama here?), while others cannot for the life of them deliver a speech or have a happy conversation. But we can all learn how to do better communication.

I am a student of good communication for life.

Let’s communicate! And heal the world, one conversation and one good message at a time.